Divorce is a stressful experience even in the best of cases. When you have already been under a lot of stress as your marriage dissolves and you increase that stress with a divorce, you might end up emotionally worn out. There is no way that you can take away all of the stress that is associated with a divorce, but there are ways that you can cope with the changes so that you aren’t emotionally battered throughout the process.
One of the first things you should do is prepare yourself to move forward. This can mean grieving the end of your marriage and letting go of the negative feelings that you have associated with the marriage. There isn’t really a way to put a time limit on the grieving, but you have to learn how to move on with life despite the need to grieve.
The next thing you have to do is to get things ready for your new life. Prioritize the things that are important to you. This must include paying your bills, but can also include other aspects of starting anew. If you are remaining in the marital home, you should check the utilities to ensure they are in your name. If you are moving, you have to find a place and set up a change of address. Getting these done now can help you to break ties with your ex so that you aren’t stuck with the split dragging on and on.
Take some time for yourself, but don’t shun friendships. By the same token, don’t jump into a new relationship right away. Make sure that you take the time to heal.
Take the time to handle the issues associated with your divorce. Make sure that you get answers to your questions about the divorce process so that you can ensure you are getting a settlement that puts you in the best position possible.
Source: AMHC, “Emotional Coping And Divorce,” Mark Dombeck, Ph.D., accessed Oct. 29, 2015
