When you and your ex have to pick up or drop off your child, things can be tense. It is important for you to remember that your child is the most important consideration during these meetings. Ideally, you and your ex should be civil with each other so that your child can stay relaxed and calm.
When you aren't in a relationship with your child's other parent, you may have a child custody and support order. You must ensure that you know what this order requires of you. As we discussed in our previous blog post, uninsured medical expenses are often a consideration in these cases. Knowing what you are responsible for now can help save you trouble in the future.
As we discussed last week, your child must be the focus of the child custody agreement. When you are coming up with the agreement, you have to think about what is best for your child. Once the agreement is made, you have to try to make the transition from parent to parent as easy as you can for your child.
Having joint custody of your child can either be a journey that is enjoyable or one that is a nightmare. If you want it to be enjoyable, you and your ex will each have to do your part to make sure that you keep conflict at bay. The biggest thing that you have to do is to remember that you and your ex aren't the focus of the joint custody. Your child is the focus and that should always be at the heart of every matter.
When you and your ex don't see eye-to-eye about how to raise your children, the situation might get heated. It is important for you to keep your wits about you when that happens and make sure that you aren't doing anything that runs afoul of the law. The fact remains that Florida laws apply to all aspects of life, even child custody matters.
It's not at all uncommon for parents to behave on way in front of witnesses or the courts and act totally differently when they are only dealing with their ex-spouse. This can be very difficult for the other person to deal with. How do you get the courts to understand that the person your ex presents in the courts isn't really what you are dealing with? While you may be tempted to record your conversations for proof, it's important to fully understand the laws before attempting this.
A woman who founded an organization in Florida after her daughter's battle with cancer recently told the story of how that all began, and she even revealed that she was threatened with the loss of custody of her daughter if she did not go along with what the doctors said.
Your finally getting used to the parenting schedule and have a good idea of whose weekend is whose. Then summer arrives. The children are out of school, the regular routine is no more and your thinking about a vacation. If you're a divorced parent, you'll need to work your vacation schedule around the custody order and your ex's plans.
As parents, we often worry about how our decisions will affect our children both over the long term and in the moment. This is often at the forefront of parents' minds who are going through a divorce. There is usually much debate and conflicting feelings leading up to a divorce if you have children.
Divorce is a difficult journey for the people who are divorcing. When there are children involved, the children can also feel the stress of the divorce. In that case, the parents should try to minimize the stress that is put on the children. One way to do this is to try to get everything resolved as amicably and swiftly as possible so that the children can learn how to move on with the new way of life.