When you and your ex have to pick up or drop off your child, things can be tense. It is important for you to remember that your child is the most important consideration during these meetings. Ideally, you and your ex should be civil with each other so that your child can stay relaxed and calm.
Typically, child custody orders have information about when and where the child will go from one parent’s custody to the other parent’s custody. This should take some of the stress off of you and your ex since this won’t have to be an area that requires the two of you to come to an agreement.
If there are disagreements that you and your ex have, try to not bring those up when you are around your child. This can be difficult because the custody exchange might be the only time you see your ex or can communicate with him or her. Still, your child is present so unless you can guarantee that the ensuing conversation will be civil, you shouldn’t try to address concerns at that time.
As difficult as it is for you to do, you have to remember that your child deserves a chance to get to know his or her other parent. Of course, some circumstances like an abusive ex might make this impossible. If the child custody order from the court requires you and your ex to share custody, you should follow the orders. If you think that your child is in danger, you should consult with an attorney so you can find out what options you have for keeping your child safe.
Source: FindLaw, “Child Custody Exchange,” accessed Dec. 02, 2016