Going through a divorce when you have children puts you in a precarious position because you aren’t able to stop having contact with your ex. You have to learn how to move past your feelings for them and start thinking of them as nothing more than the parent of your child.
The transition from intimacy to co-parenting can be challenging. There are a few ways that you might be able to smooth this over.
Find a new normal way of life
You need to establish a new routine for your home. You might keep some points from the schedule you had before the split, but you can adjust things that don’t work now. The sooner you let the kids know what to expect when they are with you, the better they can adapt to the changes.
Focus on the children exclusively
The children are the only focus you and your ex share. Keep the conversations related to the children. You are going to have regular contact with each other. If you are co-parenting, you will have a lot of in-person communication, so mentally prepare for this. When your ex enters into a new relationship, revisiting the co-parenting arrangement might be beneficial since you might need to include that person.
You must ensure that you have the parenting plan set, so it is in the children’s best interests. It should include information about the parenting schedule, so the children know when they will spend time with each parent. You also need to have guidelines about conduct at joint events and around the children.
