The only people who should have an opinion on a divorce are the couple who are going through it. While divorce is a very personal choice that takes bravery and courage, many people are quick to judge and accuse the person filing for divorce of being manipulative, greedy, or selfish.
If you want to file for a divorce but you are worried about being judged by your friends, family, and acquaintances, you should make sure that you have a solid support network around you. Even if you don’t have access to a good support network, you should work on positive self-talk so that you can always stand by the decisions you have made. The following are some strategies for dealing with judgemental people during a divorce.
Build your confidence
It’s your life, and only you can make decisions for it. Staying in an unhappy marriage is also a decision — and it’s likely a decision that you no longer want to make. You should have no shame in making decisions that you believe are in the best interests of yourself and your loved ones.
Assess the role of every figure in your life
Everyone you have contact with, from coworkers to family members, have an impact on your life. If there are certain figures in your life who have a negative impact on your outlook and self-esteem, consider spending less time with them so you can avoid this toxicity.
There will always be people who will judge you, no matter what you do. As long as you are confident that your decision to file for divorce is the right one, there is no reason to feel embarrassed or ashamed.