The child custody decisions that you and your ex make have to be based on what is best for your children. This might not be the same thing in your eyes as your ex's, but you have to be willing to work together if you are going to make the child custody case work. Your parenting style and your ex's should work together so that your children can thrive.
It isn't easy to work with your ex after a divorce, but you might be willing to put forth the effort when you see the way the kids benefit. One of the most important things that they need to know is that they can count on both parents even though those adults don't live in one home any longer.
We know that you might not want to have to deal with your ex much, but you may need to. If your children are involved in any extracurricular activities, such as sports, music, theater or dance, both parents might attend the events. Even if this is a bit uncomfortable for you, it can mean a lot to the kids.
When you are developing the parenting plan for the children, make sure that you have terms for how notifications of events will be handled. You may also want to have guidelines for behavior at these, such as always having mutual respect and never badmouthing each other.
We can help you find out what you need to do to get the child custody documents set up in a way that your kids reap the benefits of it.