Divorce is a rough time for children, but this doesn't mean that it is time to coddle them and let them get away with anything. You can use your divorce as a chance for self-improvement if you are willing to put forth some effort. One of the primary things that you need to do is model good behavior for them so that they can see the appropriate ways to handle situations, so try to keep your own anger and emotions under control.
Sometimes, children have a difficult time expressing their feelings. When this happens, they might lash out. This can include verbal outbursts. You might become infuriated if this happens. Try not to overact. Instead, realize that this is a chance for you to help your children. You can teach them how to express hard feelings and remind them that inappropriate expressions aren't allowed.
To help them out, you need to listen to them. You need to watch their behavior. These might give you an idea of what underlying issue they are struggling with. Once you can determine this, you will be able to help them come up with a plan. The key to this is that you have to work with them and not just shout out orders to them.
It is hard to see your children struggle because of the divorce but the skills they learn now can help them as they grow up. Not only will the find ways to adjust to changes, but they can also figure out how to address emotions that creep up throughout life.