Parenting duties are a big deal. It is important to make sure that your children have the care and attention they need to build a bright future.
During divorce, you will need to present the court with an agreement, or at least information, about your plan for the best way to care for your children after divorce. Most people figure this out through mediation.
Laying the groundwork
It may be helpful to create a checklist of parental duties for you and your ex to refer to when dividing up your responsibilities. Think through any activities that go into a typical parent-child relationship, such as:
- Feeding and meal preparation
- Maintaining or keeping track of education
- Participating in or being present for extracurriculars
- Health and hygiene responsibilities
- Planning and organizing special occasions
Writing these things out will probably give you a better, more concrete understanding of who does what in your marriage. The more detailed information you have, the more effective your plan is likely to be for the future.
Hammering out the details
You might, like others, find divorce to be something of an eye-opening experience. However, for most couples, it is not really a time to think about changing habits.
Rather, you probably want to focus on the best interests of your children. This is usually to provide the highest level of continuity possible for your children. One way to approach this goal is by continuing the parental care habits that you already have with a practical, evidence-based plan.
At first, the process might seem strange. However, you might realize that it is similar to what you’ve been doing with your spouse during your marriage. It often becomes less about who gets the kids and more about how best to support them while living apart.